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Using "The Secret" to Find Love

The underlying premise in finding the love you want using The Secret is that you must be ready for love in your life. Chiefly this means you must love yourself. Like attracts like. In other words, you can't attract love if you don't love yourself. Find things about yourself that you love and constantly reaffirm them. In The Secret, author Rhonda Byrne explains a shortcut to using the Law of Attraction to attract the things you want into your life. It's very simple really. In your self talk use "I am" statements. For example, "I am living in abundance; I am attracting prosperity." In the realm of love and relationships, your "I am" statements should affirm all of the wonderful things about you. For example, "I am deserving of love; I am loving: I am worthy of love."

The secret to The Secret, however, is not just saying it. In fact, it's not even just believing it. It's living it. You cannot just repeat your "I am" statements and expect the love of your life to knock on the door. It's more than that. You must repeat them as though they are fact; fact carved in stone. To the core of your being, with every fiber of your being you must not only believe them, but live them.

Think of it this way. When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Many people see their flaws and focus on them. This will attract the love you want in your life, it will attract more flaws. If, however, you look in the mirror and truly see your perfection, feel the love radiating from you out into the Universe, then you are on your way.

There is, though, a trick along the way. Many singles are afraid! Afraid they won't find love. That they'll spend their lives alone. What are they attracting? More fear! They are focused on the fear of being alone and that's what they are manifesting! You must live your life ready for love. Make your "I am" statement something like, "I am going to find the love of my life. I am going to find the perfect life partner." Believe it! Live it! Rhonda Byrne shares a story in The Secret about a woman who thought she was ready for love in her life. Until she realized that she was doing things that radiated to the Universe that she wasn't. She was parking her car in the middle of her two car garage. She was sleeping in the middle of the bed, and her clothes filled an entire closet. So what did she do? She readied herself. She cleaned out her garage and began parking on one side leaving the other side for her mate. She began sleeping on "her" side of the bed. She cleaned out her closet and left half of it for her partner's clothes. And, voilŕ!, love was attracted to her. She radiated her readiness to the Universe and the Universe responded.

The secret to The Secret? Focus on the love you want. Let go of the things you don't. Be aware of your thoughts and your actions. Be sure they are indeed focusing on what you want rather than what you don't. In the three steps of The Secret; ask, believe, receive. Ask for the relationship you want in your life. Believe that it's already yours. Receive it by feeling wonderful about it. Your wish is the Universe's command. All you have to do is ask.

Seduction of Sexy Women - How to Attract the Super Hot Women by Being Direct

The extremely attractive women in this world are used to male attention. Period.

And should it surprise you?

Of course not. Well in this article, I am going to tell you the #1 way of attracting one of these high-calliber women.

First, I want to tell you what it is like to be one of these women. It's important to be able to see the world through an attractive woman's eyes.

Imagine just for a second...

You are walking from the subway to the store to return a pair of shoes you bought last week.

Not one minute off the subway, a man looks at you and smiles. He holds eye contact past the point of being comfortable, but says nothing, and keeps walking.

Now on the street, another guy looks at you and es "Wow, you're hot." And continues to watch you as you walk past him.

What was he expecting? Did he thing you would turn around and chase him down simply because he expressed his interst? Jeez. This is getting old. You just want to return your shoes!

Once in the store, you are on your way to the counter when a very sophisticated older gentleman approaches you.

He seems very nice and holds up a conversation pretty well. He tells you your eyes are pretty, and he was intrigued by your smile.

This is somewhat refreshing, since he seems to pay attention to you.

But his compliments don't stop there. Now he is looking at your breasts. And he is telling you your shirt is also very pretty. Ok Ok... enough old man, I get it.

And now he is telling you he would like to buy you a diamond necklace to go with your shirt.

What? What did you do to win this man's attention? He must be very desperate. Does he do this to every girl?? Can you see how frustrating life can be for one of these women?

Every man is either too scared to make a real approach or so nice that it is sickening.

BE DIFFERENT.

That's right. The way to get the attention and build attraction with these women isn't through money, fame or good looks. You must be different and distinguish yourself from every other guy who has given her attention in the past 24 hours.

In a nutshell, the two most effective ways to distinguish yourself from the monotony and endless barrage of boring men lies in the following two behaviors.

1. Have the confidence to approach, hold eye contact and have a normal conversation with her.

Most men are intimidated by beautiful women. Don't be one of them.

2. Be more impressed by her personality than her physical beauty.

Take the time to learn what makes her special from every other woman around you. Learn about her intersts, passions and dreams. Then use those as starting points to demonstrate your interest in her.

Mastering those two things will put you light years ahead of most men out there, and put you in a position to find a really beautiful woman who appreciates being with you as well.

visualization and gratitude

What do you need to do now to make sure you can reach your goals? Other than the Law of attraction, you need other things too.

There are two powerful processes that you can carry out right now to ensure your success. They are gratitude and visualization.

Let us talk about gratitude first. Be grateful for what you have. Write down the list of things that you are grateful for. Write down even the simplest things that you have. We often take for granted all the things that we have and look at the things that we do not have. For example, we say "I don't have a car" and "I don't have the diamond watch."

Looking at what you have and being grateful for it shifts your energy. I was well aware of this after my father had a major heart operation. After more than three weeks in the intensive care unit, when he went back to the normal ward, he could not bath himself, walk or even tie his own shoelaces. At that moment I realised that all the simple things that we have been able to do ourselves are actually very important. The simple act of tying your shoelaces can be so difficult that you unable to do it.

I myself used of the things for granted. I have nearly everything in my life but always think of what I do not have. As a reminder to myself, I decided to get a ring and wear it everyday. Instead of thinking of what I have to do, I am now grateful that I has the chance to do it.

The other way to remind yourself daily is to get a gratitiude rock. This could just be an ordinary rock which you carry around all day. Every time you touch this rock, remind yourself of all the things you have.

When you feel good about what you have, you are in alignment and is ready to receive more. Be grateful for the clothes you are wearing and you will get better clothes coming on the way. Most significantly, gratitude is able to shift your energy.

How about visualisation? It may seem easy or hard to believe. It is probably something soo easy to do that we think it will not work. Then again. You must be fully convinced that visualisation will help you get to where you want to be. Only then will you do it with your heart and your soul.

If you want $10,000 a month, visualise the $10,000 note every day and what it will do for you. Visualise how your life will change and be with every moment of it.

If you want to find a partner, then you should visualise yourself to be with the type of man or woman that you want your partner to be. Visualise all the fantastic things that both of you are doing together. Make it real for you. Remember the visualise it everyday until you will find your partner.

If you want to recover from a disease like rashes, visualise yourself with a perfect skin condition. Visualise how others are commenting on your perfect skin texture and how you are being so proud of it.

If you cannot even visualise what you want, how are you going to get there? If you visualise and think that you are not part of it, then you probably will not be. It is all up to you. Whatever the mind can conceive, it can achieve.

I am an internet marketer and a Singaporean. I believe you can get what you want if you are ready to receive it.

My mission is to let everyone know that the law of attraction can be applied in all areas of your life. This is especially for areas you need to do something about to allow you to have more love, energy, health and wealth in your life.

Are you hungry for that lovin’ feeling? But why is true love so elusive? Why does it so often lead to heartbreak? Check out these heartbreak clues and see if any of these offer clues. Read on to see how to get better results in love.

Heartbreak clues:

1. You are miserable being single.

Wanting love is very different than being desperate for love. Are you loveable, that is, can someone else love you when you don’t even like yourself? If you are looking for someone to rescue you from yourself, you will need to become your own hero first.Loving and respecting yourself are very attractive features, and will attract a self-respecting partner. The converse is also, unfortunately, true.

2. No boundaries.

You have few, if any boundaries for your own or your partner’s behavior or status. Are you too accepting of bad or disrespectful treatment for fear he or she won’t want to bother with you any longer? Are you or is this partner not really available to commit to this relationship? Do you say yes when you wish you could say no?

If the person you are involved with is still married, or not fully divorced and healed, he or she is not really available to you. Open your eyes. If you don’t want to waste a lot of your life in a relationship that is really going nowhere healthy, set a boundary that you will not get involved with someone unless he or she is fully available, right now, and treats you respectfully, consistently over time. Ditto for you.

3. Lack direction.

You don’t know who you are or what is important to you or where your life is headed. What are your values? What values do you want to share with your life partner? What do you need to do, be and/or have in your future to be happy and satisfied? What impact do you want to have in the world or in someone’s life? What emotional, physical and perhaps spiritual qualities and circumstances are of utmost importance to you in a love relationship? Socrates said it best, “Know thyself”. You are uniquely you; Shine the light of self-knowledge on your requirements, needs, and wants, your life vision, dreams and goals. You want a partner who will support and help fulfill these for you.

4. Trust and commitment are missing in action.

Attraction is the first ten features you care about in a partner. Attraction and chemistry are important ingredients in a love relationship. But over time, they are likely to fade. The intensity of attraction and chemistry are boosted by the hormone, dopamine, which, like adrenaline, energizes and makes a new relationship feel exciting.

Over time, that is 2 months to 2 years, the effect of this dopamine will dissipate, and a feeling of “ho-hum” will set in, unless new ingredients, like trust and commitment, which are highly bonding dynamics, grow.

Like salt and pepper, trust and commitment and other bonding dynamics will enhance the flavor of the attraction between you. Otherwise, your relationship will begin to feel bland, or downright distasteful.

5. Sabotaged by the past.

You are still hurt from past relationships. The hurt you carry around from the past will taint, sabotage or damage other relationships, unless you are able to: 1) learn from and heal the hurts from the past, (there ARE processes to heal the heart) and 2) distinguish the past from the present. If you believe that the past will repeat itself, for example, with infidelity, (though of course, you hope it won’t) you might, unconsciously, set up the conditions so it will happen again. Remember that this partner is not the previous partner or other person in your life who hurt you before. Don’t blend your past and present experiences, like a ball of mixed up playdoh colors, into one mishmash of hurt.

6. Emotions run the show.

You have few useful relationship or communication skills. When you are angry, upset or hurt, you blow up, blame, threaten and/or take no responsibility for your part in the problem. If every upset or argument that you are involved in has the same pattern and upsetting outcome, in this and in previous/other relationships, notice who is the common factor here.

It may feel like it’s all the other person’s fault, all the time. You may even be sure it’s the other person’s fault, but take the hint and work with a relationship coach to learn how to resolve upsets so you both feel heard, validated and respected. Don’t keep doing the same thing and expect a different result!

Destination: Lasting Love: Get started on the path.

Wanting a loving, secure relationship does not mean you are actually ready for one. To be truly ready and available for a lasting, healthy relationships hre are some essential ingredients:

* Feeling good about your yourself and your life
* Knowing who you are and what is important to you in a relationship,
* Having boundaries that, like mosquito repellant, repels unhealthy behaviors,
* Learning relationship skills that help rather than hurt, will transform heartbreak into happiness. Working with a life and love coach to step into the life you want. May you have much happiness in love!