I may write something longer in the future, but just a few words for now.
Leadership has many aspects, for example making clear that you demand the acceptance of leadership and will not accept nonsense, but what I want to mention here is the real practical goal of the masculine leadership, which is the creation of a team!
The leader must be able to take decisions alone if the situation demands it, and will not debate about it, but in a relatively normal situation, the leader must, first create a team, and them lead that team.
This presupposes that he will make himself accepted as the leader, firstly by showing leadership ability (aka masculinity) and secondly by demanding that recognition, otherwise... no relationship or marriage (aka "adio bella").
But then he must build a team with him as leader and with a woman and her feminine nature and role.
That means that he must make conscious to both, to himself and to the woman that they are a team and that they are in it together.
The boyfriend-girlfriend phase serves the purpose of establishing the team and establishing the basics of its functioning.
Those basics are leadership, but also communication and constant feedback - leadership is not tyranny, but a team thing.
But it is even much more than that: it is voluntary and eager participation and contribution.
Only when this community, this team based on participation of both to create something better in common is established, only when the commitment of both for that common enterprise is assured can come marriage.
And when children come, you, as the team leader, have to make them members of the team under the leadership of you and your wife, but you being the ultimate leader.
You have to get your children to feel that they are also part of a team, and that you are all in it together. They accept your authority as benevolent leader, understanding that whatever you do is for the common good, BUT, they also must feel part of it, participate and contribute, give feedback and ideas, and you have to take it all in account and make them welcome to participate, and even feel the responsibility to participate.
None of this is a game for power, neither between you or your wife, not with or between your children. Your leadership must be unconditional, precisely because it is not about your egoism, but you must correct egoism if it appears among the members of your team, and make them understand that this is not about egoism, but about working and progressing together,
Of course it absolutely does NOT mean that anyone's individuality must be suppressed.
It is exactly the opposite. It is through the development of each individuality, including your own, that each individuality can contribute the best.
Post je objavljen 23.07.2022. u 07:30 sati.