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What is Confidence?
I watched the video: How To Initiate & HOLD A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN You're Attracted To
This was my comment:
For me, confidence is being self activated instead of being reactive, which means to always be the aware cause of what I'm doing instead of going on reactive autopilot, reacting to any automatic emotion that arises from a situation.
Emotions are what automatically moves us IF we are in the reactive mode (and it can move us in the wrong direction), but if we are in an active, causal mode, we can actually activate the desired body energies (usually called "emotions") that are usually automatic, and then these energies activate our mind in a certain way adapted to a situation, for example to know spontaneously what to say to someone.
Some people probably call it a state of "flow", but the important thing to understand is that it is caused by an awareness that is self activated, impervious to the exterior, in a certain way (its core), and which activates various modes of body energies at will, which in return activate the mind in a certain way to spontaneously adapt to the situation.
This is a feedback process between the mind and the body. The body and the mind form a whole, and I sometimes say that we think with our body, but all that feedback loop must be activated by the untouched unreactive but active, self activating awareness core.
At a certain level, we can call it "The Will", but it is different than what people usually mean by "will", which is usually just a fight against automatic reactivity.
"Will", is actually the aware "I", the "I am" of the mystics, the real self awareness that establishes the right hierarchy between the self activating core of awareness and the mind-body, or body-mind.
WRITTEN THE NEXT DAY:
I know that what I wrote is too general and will try to make it more practical.
It has to do with the hierarchy of purposes and goals.
If someone is like a reactive pinball in a pinball machine, he has no direction of his own but is at the mercy of various external impulses. For example a man in relation to women can be in a situation where he faces a whole confusion of goals and purposes he is unable to order: "should I do this, should I want that, or that... what should I do, what should I want" (a human asks himself those questions, a mere "biped" has animal purposes). This applies to all kinds of life situations, not just male-female relationships.
Someone aware of his "I", his inner causal core, someone self activated, becomes aware of himself as the initial aware purpose, aware self activated life. One realizes that one is life and aware life. That life is the purpose.
Then this is articulated into a hierarchy of more specific life purposes and goals serving those purposes, which is the articulation of awareness into all dimensions and aspects of life, it is a process of maturation of life, a process of becoming an adult.
So many people don't become adults in many aspects of their lives, particularly in M-F relationships, and it would help them to establish this awareness of purposes and goals from the top, the self activated awareness to specific articulations of that life core in all aspects of their lives. They would have a clear direction, and confronted to various situations, they would not be at their mercy, but would assess them in relation to their own direction.
This is what I call Clarity - the Clarity of purposes and goals from the top, the awareness of self, the aware life, the "I Am".
M-F relationship is also a question of life and awareness of the purpose of that life union and make it a real functional union of the unit of life that is the couple. Having that purpose in mind one can assess other people and if they are capable to be part of that, and become that union of life and grow into adulthood in that direction. In this World this is a problem, and it would be the role of a Man to lead in that direction, but Clarity in that area is very deficient.
But when one becomes confident and self assured in Clarity, one can become very playful inside it and also develop strong emotions in accordance to that Clarity. This is not a stern "discipline", it's life.
And another detail: The "I AM" always stays the I AM, but it also integrates and absorbs all its purposes and goals in itself.
Post je objavljen 29.09.2022. u 18:21 sati.