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My kids were totally in synch, back in "the day." I like to walk this same beach almost daily--and I always remember these two, learning to love the river at the east tip of the island.

Now they're both out in the world, living on their own--finding jobs, making choices, still obeying their mutual "prime directive"--("don't involve Dad unless it's absolutely necessary")

Flickrfriend RitaGB recently posted a baby photo of her now 8-year-old son, with a caption remarking "they grow up so fast!" Ain't it the truth.

My kids have taken different paths, and aren't in tandem anymore. I watch from the sidelines, invested most assuredly, but aware that my parenting is a spectator sport now. Whatever lessons I had to pass along, by now it's either in their bones or as forgotten as those Father's Day Coupon Books they'd give, "good for one day of working on the boat, Dad."

The age of emancipation--18--was a discussion topic between us the other day. Their Freedom, they think. But the emancipation is the parents'--we are freed of many of the legal responsibilities, while these youngsters hopefully take charge of their own lives.

They still phone, asking for particular favors--to borrow the truck, to get some cash, questions about health insurance and income taxes. Or sometimes, to give me help on navigating the TV remote protocols. It happens fast, like they say. I will buy a new life!

Baby Sand Lizard

Lovely to see another generation of these rare little lizards, I've seen a few baby ones over my travels......and as young ones should do....off at the slightest movement. But with the late heatwave we've been having this little one didn't want to give up it's sun spot.

As you can see it's already lost the tip of it's tail.....so somewhere something got the tail end of it :-)
Sorry.......I'm a master at lame jokes.

It's sun spot may have been a little out in the open but it had the added bonus of being an open air drive through for ants........so it had on tap take-away without having to move.

People ask me how I see them.......but I don't do anything special!
Luck plays a part......I've seen way more scurrying away than I've ever captured :-)
But one thing I will say........nearly all the lizard shots I've posted I've never had stepped to step away from the heathland or coastal paths to see them. Like rabbits many do seem to like the edges to paths for sunning and feeding.

Only minutes before a horse rider had rode past me.....so this one was lucky it wasn't on the path.