Wow. Just how did I get here? To the bottom of my secret garden, down and round the winding path, past the pond and behind the bushes, hidden from everyone I had ever met, until now?It’s a long story, a true journey of discovery, helped along the way with an increasing sense of certainty and more than a few deep breaths.I was brought up, like lots of women, to believe that sex was something private, something that happened between a man and a woman during marriage, definitely not before and defi.