1. CommitmentTrue commitment means much more than simply committing to staying married. Here's one of my favorite quotes about marriage:"When you marry, you don't marry one person, you marry three:The person you think he is;the person he really is;and the person he is going to become as a result of marrying you."Key strategy: Genuine commitment involves being committed to the growth and best interest of your partner. Or as one wise married person said to me, "What's good for my partner, is good .