It's startling to discover how having kids changes the way you see the world. Just compare your "before kids" vs. "after kids" views on what counts as: * A good place to live. * A desirable car. * An excellent restaurant. * A great evening. * Your ideal or "plum" job. Give that "plum" job a closer look. Back in school, you may have dreamed of a job that offered intellectual challenge, travel, or a chance to use your talents to make a difference in the world. Once you start a family, your "pl.