Kako bi privukao visoko kvalitetnu ženu u svoj život, muškarac mora prvo izgraditi visoko kvalitetan život. Isto vrijedi i obrnuto.
Ponekad je teško usamljenoj osobi to razumijeti. Ljudi često misle kako će savršen partner donijeti svršen život i rješenje za sve njihove probleme. Iako se to većini usamljenih osoba čini kao istina, ona se krije u suprotnom. Osjećaj da trebate nekoga da vam riješi probleme kreira probleme u odnosu sa svakom osobom koju upoznate. Postoji samo jedan način da riješite taj problem.
Morate pronaći život koji će vas istinski zadovoljavati i bez partnera, morate početi razmišljati kako vam u životu u stvari partner i ne treba da bi ste bili sretni. U životu stvarno vrijedi ona stara poslovica «okreni mu leđa, sam će ti prići».
Kako to postići?
Za početak morate naučiti raditi stvari samo zbog sebe. Počnite sa sitnicama. Nemojte kupiti neku jaknu koja vam super stoji, kupite jaknu u kojoj se osjećate ugodno.
Razvijajte društveni krug koji će vam dati mogućnost da se bavite aktivnostima koje želite i koje smatrate uzbudljivima.
Ako ne volite izlaziti u klubove, nemojte se prisiljavati tamo izlaziti samo zbog toga što mislite kako je to jedini način gdje možete upoznati potencijalnog partnera. Ako vam je draže organizirajte obiteljski roštilj, pomažite prijatelju cijelu noć u autoradionici ili se izležavajte ispred televizora. Ništa što radite, a da pritom uživate nije gubljenje vremena. Morate razviti interese izvan dobrih mogućnosti za traženje partnera. Vratite se onim aktivnostima koje su vas uveseljavale dok ste bili mlađi.
Ako ste obožavali planinarenje, skakati u more sa stijena, ponovno to radite. Nije važno što tri zgodna frajera ili cure sjede u baru na plaži. Kolika je šansa da ćete uspjeti nešto kod njih? Objektivno koliko puta ste nakon takvog pokušaja bili sretni, a koliko vas usrećuje skakanje sa stijena s lokalnim klincima?!Napravite nešto o čemu ste oduvijek maštali. Tako da kada za nekoliko godina pronađete pravu osobu ne žalite za propuštenim vremenom.
Potrudite se zaboraviti na opsesiju kako pronaći pravog / pravu, a pronađite novu kako imati dobar život. U tome je ključ.
Pjesmica (poklon)...
Tvome srcu
O, srce, ranama izranjeno,
Suzama gorkim vidano,
Bolnim jecajima uspavljivano,
Beskrajnim noćima tješeno.
Gledaj gdje se zora rađa sretna
i pruži joj nadu u osmijeh.
Gledaj sunce veselo što se smiješi
I ptice što razveselit žele suzno oko.
O srce, smiri bol u sebi
I gledaj sunce gdje zalazi crveno.
Sad plači, sad plači
Prošao tvoj je dan.
E, sada, budući me danas neka stvar podjsetila na nešto, želio bih da čujete ovu pjesmicu, stvarno je prekrasna, stvarno.. (Preuzmite pjesmu klikom na ime pjesme)
THE STREETS "Dry your eyes"
In one single moment your whole life can turn 'round
I stand there for a minute starin' straight into the ground
Lookin' to the left slightly, then lookin' back down
World feels like it's caved in - proper sorry frown
Please let me show you where we could only just be, for us
I can change and I can grow or we could adjust
The wicked thing about us is we always have trust
We can even have an open relationship, if you must
I look at her she stares almost straight back at me
But her eyes glaze over like she's lookin' straight through me
Then her eyes must have closed for what seems an eternity
When they open up she's lookin' down at her feet
Dry your eyes mate
I know it's hard to take but her mind has been made up
There's plenty more fish in the sea
Dry your eyes mate
I know you want to make her see how much this pain hurts
But you've got to walk away now
It's over
So then I move my hand up from down by my side
It's shakin', my life is crashin' before my eyes
Turn the palm of my hand up to face the skies
Touch the bottom of her chin and let out a sigh
'Cause I can't imagine my life without you and me
There's things I can't imagine doin', things I can't imagine seein'
It weren't supposed to be easy, surely
Please, please, I beg you please
She brings her hands up towards where my hands rested
She wraps her fingers round mine with the softness she's blessed with
She peels away my fingers, looks at me and then gestures
By pushin' my hand away to my chest, from hers
And I'm just standin' there, I can't say a word
'Cause everythin's just gone
I've got nothin'
Absolutely nothin'
Tryin' to pull her close out of bare desperation
Put my arms around her tryin' to change what she's sayin'
Pull my head level with hers so she might engage in
Look into her eyes to make her listen again
I'm not gonna fuckin', just fuckin' leave it all now
'Cause you said it'd be forever and that was your vow
And you're gonna let our things simply crash and fall down
You're well out of order now, this is well out of town
She pulls away, my arms are tightly clamped round her waist
Gently pushes me back and she looks at me straight
Turns around so she's now got her back to my face
Takes one step forward, looks back, and then walks away
I know in the past I've found it hard to say
Tellin' you things, but not tellin' straight
But the more I pull on your hand and say
The more you pull away
Dry your eyes mate
I know it's hard to take but her mind has been made up
There's plenty more fish in the sea
Dry your eyes mate
I know you want to make her see how much this pain hurts
But you've got to walk away now.
-Josip-
Post je objavljen 10.07.2006. u 12:30 sati.