Last week I was hanging with some of my female friends. Whatever some of the bloggers in the Sphere tell you, never burn your bridges. This is the number one rule of networking. Don't burn bridges, just don't invest too much time. One of those two was recently married and the other is in a LTR of six years. Both know about the Game (one of them actually introduced me to the concept). While girls were chatting about some girly stuff, I spent time with their guys. Somehow, we came to the topic of relationships. And those two guys started joking how their women are making all decisions. "My girl gives me the RC and asks me what I want to watch. I know this is just a token question since we end up watching something she wants." Other guy said "Wen we go to the cinema, she always chooses the movie we are going to watch". Then one of the girls interrupted "Honey, it is not true you don't have a choice. You can pick the cinema we are going to." All four started laughing. I felt disgusted. They continued on and it was clear my friends were those in control of their men. Since then I started noticing a growing trend where guys are behaving like whining pussies. I thought this was only happening in western countries where feminism is strong like States or UK, but not here in Croatia. I didn't know our men are pussy wiped that much.
Then I wrote last night a story of my friend who has a similar problem. I feel sad for him when the solution for his problems is only to hold his frame and not take her shit. This is a big "only" I have been fighting him with. But I feel I am loosing the battle. Some guys just can't be helped. It is sad when guys choose women over friends and family. I only hope one day he will realize the truth.
Today I was reading some blogs and I came to this article. I was shocked again. Igniss, a Croatian Game blogger, did a nice comparison and why more and more men are choosing to exit the sexual market. Because it is easier. A guy can get instant (but artificial) sexual satisfaction from masturbation or porn. No Game is needed. Success is guaranteed. Price is constant. No risk. Those guys spend their time "hanging out" and "socializing" with virtual friends who have similar believes. Usually it is playing video games all the time. It would be nice if this was some distant problem that didn't affect me, but my younger brother is starting to show sings. And he was a bigger player than I was a couple of years ago. What happened?

I feel sad and disturbed for future men who decide to remain boys. There is only one solution.

Get out of comfort zone and start behaving like men!

Oznake: game, feminism, SMP, pornography

Last night I have spent a night with a beautiful new girl (and a new flag). After finishing making love, I tend to ask new girls “What was the moment when you decided you are going to sleep with me? What is the moment I won you over”. She answered: “I can’t really choose a moment. It is more a sum of everything. But if I had to, it would be when we were walking through doors, you opened it for me and then pushed me with your hand on the bottom of my back.” She also added: “You like to be in charge and bossy. Your messages are short and precise”. (I utilize Roosh’s policy keeping texts only for settling logistics. e.g. “Meet me at the bar at 19:00. Dress nicely.”). She continued: “You are rough, but not always.” And then she winked at me seductively.

In my transformation from a nice guy to a masculine guy, I wanted to test how far I can go with stuff I learned all over the Sphere and Internet. That usually meant doing things nice guy in me felt were wrong. But, just for sake of experimenting I kept going and pushing (since obviously nice guy mentality didn't work). From time to time I relapsed into the nice guy (usually especially when I slept with the girl, I wanted to help her somehow). As time passed by I kept relapsing less and less and with this last girl I can happily say I don't consider her anything more than current entertainment. Some would call it a start of misogyny. Maybe they are right. But she is having as much fun as I am. "Return them better than you found them" is a self fulfilling prophecy since they enjoy me at least as much as I enjoy them (and they get to learn a thing or two). But I am getting of the subject.

The ting I did different with this girl is not to bother myself with what is she thinking or feeling. I kept doing things that a masculine, decisive guy would. And always escalate (verbally and physically). Treat her like a black box. Don't listen what she is saying, observe her actions. I got challenged, but I stayed congruent with the image I was presenting. That is the frame control. If you falter for a second and fail incongruently some of her shit tests, you fail. Your loose any attraction you have built and it is game over. This should not discourage you to experiment.
It is hard for a reforming nice guy, and many relapse. They set masculine frame by threatening to leave when girl has much invested (LTR), but never do. And she knows it. And when there is a threat of leaving, she flashes wit her pussy a bit and he returns. Women knows her pussy is her greatest weapon. And she will use it if she knows it works. Because you have showed her!

Let's get to the specifics. Always be a leader and in charge. Make all arrangements and decisions. It is OK to ask her opinion, but stick to only giving her options. Don't make her make decisions.
Ask her to oblige to your standards. She is a part of your image when she is with you. Any resistance needs to be dealt with decisively. And she will resist (thus testing you). Punish her when she is not obliging by removing your attention from her, not commenting on something she worked hard and plainly ignoring her. Tease her. It is freakishly accurate how this resembles to training a dog.
Make her commit. Small commitments (coming to a meeting place you have chosen) at first and keep going from them (kino escalation, time investment, gifts, make out, hickeys, sex).
Always be the one to stop the interaction. Interaction can be texting, conversation, date, making out or sex. This shows you are in control.
Ask for what you want to do or think belongs to you. This also starts small ("I would fancy a walk before going to the bar") and escalates ("I want another round with you").
Handle LMR gracefully. Don't show you are annoyed sexually depraved AFC you probably are. This is the basics of all techniques handling LMR. Even after sex, keep your frame. She didn't give you anything, you weren't lucky, you don't have to grateful. You conquered her and you took it. And she lowed it. When escalating towards sex, lead her, hold her and move her. Show your strength and masculinity. Learn about how to be a good kisser and lover. There is a ton of stuff on the Internet.

Improve yourself from inside out and everything else will fall into place.

Oznake: game, leadership, masculine frame, frame control

I have a friend. His life is tough, really tough. He went through some things I wouldn't want my greatest enemy to go through. He made mistakes, mistakes that participated to the sum of his life. But who hasn't? He is a good person, too good for his own good. And in life we live today such persons get punished for being good. Is being bad the solution?

He was in a happy long term relationship a couple of years ago. His girl got pregnant and they got married. He got a beautiful son. And he was happy. His, now wife, for some reason was not. But he, as a good guy he is, tried to be even nicer. He worked even harder to be the best provider. She demanded even more. He worked even more. Humans are miserable animals. We believe if we do the same thing harder, things will be better, but they won't. Change is what makes things better. He snapped. He got divorced. Splitting almost killed him because he loved and still loves (as of today) his now ex wife. He adores his kid. Who wouldn't? I love his kid. But a child needs a stable family. His will never have.

Family is always there for us. And we, children grown up, try to be for them. But there comes a point in life where life seems unfair and our loved ones go away. It is sad but normal part of life. We have to step in to help. But there is a void that, in order for life to feel normal again, needs to be filled. We try to become providers in stead of our fathers for our family. We start to be mentors in stead of our fathers to our siblings. We start to work harder. Humans are miserable animals. We believe if we do the same thing harder, things will be better, but they won't. Change is what does. We can't live other peoples' lives in stead of our own. This has nothing to do with selfishness but no father or mother would want our lives spent in name of theirs. Some voids have to be accepted and lived with.

He found love again. Like at the beginning of every relationship they played games. Games of courtship and getting to know the limits of other and relationship itself are a normal part of any beginning. But they couldn't stop. When their love was mature and it was clear to everyone they are crazy about each other, they were still driving each other mad by games and drama. She happens to love drama and he happens to love her. They were splitting and getting back together on numerous times. Humans are miserable animals. We believe by doing the same things harder, things will be better. Now, they are split apart for last time but still together. Guys when having tough times tend to run to places they were happy. To women. There is nothing like a warm and tender women's bosom that can calm a man. The same is leadership and decisiveness women seek in men. When there is missing, warmth turns to drama because there are no limits and women tend to test them. Always. Drama provides the same emotions as a decisive man - excitement.

Change.
Change is the only cure for solving problems. It is hard to change. It is easier to escape to moments of happiness (drinking, drugs, ignoring problems...) and, in the mean time, work harder on doing the same thing. Same thing we are so good at. Being miserable. We humans are miserable animals indeed.

I thought of finishing this article with last sentence. But that would be pathetic. There is a way to fight misery. Change. How? Start small. Remove or contain sources of misery. Set priorities. The moment a women is a number one priority, and she knows it (and she will) you become number two. Number one is everything else. Priorities - yourself (health, psychical and mental), family and friends then women. Don't think you can tackle all areas simultaneously. Start by priorities. First, change yourself by start living healthier - exercise and read books. You can't help others if you are a mess. Second, take care of your family and friends. When everything is settled attend to your women. Set her limits. She wants it. Don't be a jerk (no, being bad is not the solution), don't be a nice guy either. Find a middle, be a man who is a decisive leader. A masculine man. Don't sell yourself short for a pussy. If you tell me you love her more than yourself, your family and friends and you believe it deep down, you, my friend, will be miserable for the rest of your life. And sooner then later, you will be alone. Pathetic, bitter, broken and alone. Consider this as my final warning.

Oznake: game, misery

Many will say that once you take the red pill, you have to start hating women. This is not true, at least for the most of us.
Unfortunately, not everyone is ready to take the pill and put an effort that changing your life requires. Also, after realizing and acknowledging the truth, there is a period of frustration. Suddenly, all things you believed, happened to be false. Your world turned around overnight. Again, person who is not strong enough to start life changing process, will take the easy way and became a hater.
Those who start working on themselves will realize one inalienable truth:

Women are not as precious and rare every man thinks they are.

Especially when you see how efficiently routines and materials work. Women will stop to be a mysterious object of desire that is out of your reach.
You will also feel a certain sadness towards women. Their only power is sexual, which has a limited lifespan (their biological clock tends to clock out sooner than ours). Also, they lose most of or all of their power once they give it to a man (or man has taken the pill). They are also attracted to jerks, who abuse them and they tend to rationale it. They are so insecure and lost in the world without someone to guide them, and they are programmed to like it.

One large consequence of the Game is that you stop appreciating women as you used to when you didn't understand them. You tend to put them at their place and not take them as seriously as you used to. It is similar as when you start with a new hobby. You are so eager to try everything and now. As time passes, novelty factor (or lack of it) takes over and hobby is not as exciting as it used to be.

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What is your opinion on the subject? Write them in comments.

Oznake: game, morality, misogyny

If being a nice guy is wrong, that means I have to be a bad boy or jerk in order to be good at Game. Right?
Wrong.
Being nice and being jerk are two opposites. Hitting the golden middle is the key. What does that mean? It means not to tolerate any shit you would not otherwise tolerate. It is the same formula as when dealing with shit tests. When having a moral dilemma, ask yourself: "Is this something I would normally do/put up with if this was a guy who is someone I particularly don't care about?". If yes, then proceed, if no, don't do it. It is as simple as that. Do not tolerate a woman just because she is a woman (and has a pussy). Don't be nice just because you have to, it is expected from you or you were raised to be like that.

But all those routines, techniques and materials look manipulative. I just want to be myself.
Let me ask you a counter question. How often are you "being yourself" when with a women? Do you buy every stranger you meet at the nightclub a drink? Or you buy drinks to girls because you want to them to like you? Are you speaking what is on your mind or are you saying what you think she will like? Are you doing stuff you like or stuff you think she likes? Please, tell me how this is not manipulative or "just being yourself"?
It is not.

Being a guy who knows what he wants and is not afraid to get what he wants is the basic idea of the Game.
All those materials and routines are there to help a guy to get there. Game is knowledge and like any knowledge it is morally neutral. How you use this knowledge, is up to you.
But, let's say, for sake of an argument, you are using your knowledge to get women to sleep with you. Is this wrong? Are they really hating being with a guy who "knows the stuff"? Again, let's say that this is wrong and manipulative (which I don't think is). There are only two things you can do. You can either watch and hold a moral stand or join the ride. I agree that nice guy should be "the right way", but it is not. Time when women were courted and impressed by men has passed. Today, things are as they are. Jerks are getting all the cool girls, while nice guys are finishing last (if ever). These are the new rules of the Game.

Thirdly, girls are using same Game on us when they are checking us out. They use shit tests, wait last second to text us, flaking, playing hard to get (even she likes you)... Social conditioning at it's finest. When I am asked what is Game all about, it is using women psychology on women.

Lastly, if you are still having moral dilemmas, here is what you can do. When you leave a girl, leave her in a better state then you have found her. As simple as that. Only try not to get overboard and to an extreme known as a nice guy.

On a personal note, I have been struggling with these questions for a while when I was starting. I believed Game was wrong, a necessary evil. That I was not being myself. But let me tell you. Today, I like my "new", changed self. It has a better hold of it's life. My life has been richer than ever before. You might be thinking that I am making myself believe, but my friends are seeing improvements in my life. All is not nice and pretty, though. There were consequences.

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What is your opinion on Game morality? Share your story.

Oznake: game, morality

Being a leader is more of an inner state that manifests outwardly.

Leadership is all about making decisions for others.

Take responsibilities for others and you will lead them.

Being a good leader is hard because you have to make risks by making decisions. You will make mistakes, but that doesn't matter as long as you learn something from them. It is important to make a decision.

You don't have to be a CEO or president to be a leader. Lead your peer group (you have friends - suggest some activities you can do together, organize those activities) and practice that way.

Lead men and women will follow. And they expect to follow your lead. Everywhere and every time. Especially during dates.
This leadership can be subtle (e.g. leading her by holding hands, or pushing her while opening the door) or direct (e.g. "We are going to that place"). This doesn't mean you don't listen to her or be a jerk. Make the decision and ask her feedback is perfectly normal.

Compare these two scenarios:

1.
He: Hi, are you up for a dinner tonight?
Her: Sure
He: Good, what would you like to eat?
Her: I don't know
He: I don't know either.
Her: I feel eating Italian tonight
He: Excellent, me to.
Her: Even better Chinese (note, this is a shit test)
He: Me to. Do you know a good restaurant?
Her: Yeah, let's go ___
He: Super, when would you like to meet?
Her: 8PM
He: Great, should I pick you up or will we meet there?
Her: ... (she should be rolling her eyes and regretting the whole thing by now)

2.
He: Hi, let's go and eat something tonight. (note statement, not question)
Her: Sure
He: Good, I am up for Italian but Chinese could pass. (you can give her a choice, nothing wrong with that)
Her: I would like Chinese.
He: I will pick you up at 8PM. Be ready (I would add, "and dress nice")
Her: I will.

First scenario was lead by her, second by him. This is the type leadership that girls are expecting.
Women are expecting men to lead. They *do not* want to be put into a leadership position. And if a guy is not leading, she is the only one left to.

What is your opinion? Write them in the comments.

Oznake: game, leadership

So, you will be having a girl at your place. Be prepared and make your life easier. Here are few tips:

Have a clean place
No dirty dishes or clothes laying around. Toilet is cleaned and nothing stinks. Your place reflects yourself (as does hers). If you are treating your body like a temple (which you are), so should your place.

Have an interesting place
I have a shelf dedicated to memorabilia from parts of my life. This was not put up for the sake of Game, but I like having memories with me. But it has helped on number of occasions (DHV).
I also have a bookshelf with various books (from grammars and management literature to light reading fiction).
I have a kinect. motion controlled games are excellent source of fun and help with kino escalation.
Under my coffee table I have magazines like "Men's health".
Head Massager is cool and cheap.
Picture Barney's apartment from How I Met Your Mother. He has a stormtrooper (bit geeky, but unusual) and Katana (porn collection is a bit too much) as DHV items. Not to mention that the rest of apartment looks cool and meanly.

Romantic stuff (sex facilitators)
Candles - I love candles and it sets such a romantic mood
LED furniture - modern candles. Turn lights off, LEDs on, throw couple of candles. Cool meets romantic.
Music - there needs to be a background music for the mood. It doesn't matter which (I have banged a chick with Game of Thrones in the background)
Scents - Attack all senses. have your place smell nice.
Always have a bottle of wine - Chick love wine. Also, have some girly drinks on stand by (for those who don't). If she is into beer, reconsider the bang, seriously.

Is there something else you are using? I would like to her it.

Oznake: game

So you managed to get a girl's number. Great! What do you do now?
Next step is to meet her. And before that? Arrange the logistics of the meeting.
Let's say that you have managed to build enough attraction when you have met her and used a couple of routines that she now finds you interesting. One of those that you should have used is a funny nick name. This is an essential link that will enable a smooth transaction into new conversation.

When do you do it? If I get a girl's number (or FB or mail) during weekend, I usually contact them on Tuesday. Do not contact them, under any circumstances the same night or following morning. Also, don't, after she gives you her number, "check if it works" or "I will call you so you can have mine". Just don't.

So, should you call or text?
Calling is dead. Today girls text, text and text some more. They don't call. I tried calling, but it didn't work as I would have wanted it. I prefer calling when there is some relationship going on and I can build rapport that way easily.
So, how complicated text should be?
As simple as possible, but with a some kind of twist. The twist comes from the nickname you gave her. Or the something you two came up with. Or from something you have been teasing her about (note, never tease about physical look, they tend to cry). The text should be about the logistics.
Here is an example:
Me:
Hi _insert nick name here_, _reference to the tease_ (e.g. Still planning on killing that girl? Should I start avoiding your part of town?) (The tease is a small bait that she has no problem answering to. It also helps you to see if she is near her phone and how quickly she responds. The quicker the better, reverse doesn't apply.)
Her: _Answer to the tease_ (e.g. Nah, I have bigger plans in mind like blowing something up) (Depending how rich (playful) her answer is, you will know how hooked she is. Also, how fast she answers. The more, the better, but reverse doesn't apply.)
Me: _Reference to the answer_ (e.g. Great, now I am on a FBI's watch list.) _Transition from the reference to the logistics_ (e.g. I think we should discuss details in person. Coffee Saturday afternoon? I will send you details a couple of days before) (Short and simple. Don't do long texts because they are better then you are. Jokes don't sound good because you can't calibrate and use your body language. The more you text, the more chance you have to screw something up. Also, notice that I didn't ask for the permission (Would you like to...). I am polite enough to use a question mark but that can be changed into comma (calibration). Also, I haven't ended my text with the question (keeping momentum going - I am telling her what to do)

Day before (or same day) I text with the details.
Me: Tomorrow, XXXX hrs, _place_
She: Ok, cya (Her text just came as I am writing this :))

So, you have a solid basis to start with. She likes you. If she didn't she wouldn't answer your text (or would give you incorrect number).
If girl doesn't show up (flakes) or cancels in last minute delete her number and newer speak to her. Do not believe any excuses unless you have slept with her (and then same rules often applies). If she makes an effort (such as contacting you) then give her another try.

The date.
First rule of date is to have a plan - a dateplan. Plan has to consist of activities you two are going to do. If you are thinking on the spot, you will be insecure and not a leader. Be prepared. Here is an outline of mine.
I don't do "regular" dates (go to dinners). I meet girls for a coffee at a bar (since that is very nonthreatening). There I continue with being cocky and funny (attraction build). Time has passed since she last saw you and you need to boost attraction again.
After an hour or so, I tell I have a chore to do (usually shopping) and I would like her to come along ("women's point of view"). There are a couple of reasons for this:
1. Venue change is good for comfort building.
2. She gets an opportunity to see me in a normal environment and activity.
3. I make an adventure out of it (I suggest her what to try, "she is helping me" vibe, more teasing and comfort building).

During this, second venue, I tone down with teasing (it is less frequent) I put more emphasis on comfort (by doing this chore she gets to know my likes and I get to know her). After going through couple of shops, we sit down for another drink (usually at the mall).

During this drink I suggest another bounce, something that is more romantic (isolated), such as a walk at the park/lake/city center... I want to bounce to a location that offers me more intimacy for deeper comfort building. If she agrees (and she will if you haven't screwed something up), I tell her that I have one more chore to do before we can leave. I buy something that I have to bring back home (like meat). I know what are you thinking, but you are wrong.

We bounce to my place ("I have to drop this, come up with me, here is hot/cold"). When we come, I show her around ("I would like your opinion on e.g. carpets/kitchen renovation/whatever"). After maximum half an hour, I suggest we go for a walk as we planned ("Enough snooping, let's go").
This is the catch. She was expecting me to make the move, but I didn't. As long as you are unpredictable, you will be attractive. Second thing I wanted to achieve was to show her my place and not to make such a big deal the next time when she comes (and it won't be for the carpets).

Then we go for a walk. During that we are in deep rapport and building more comfort. Certain vulnerabilities come up, but only a glance of them (e.g. something from childhood). I usually do the Cube or any other comfort building routine. We are getting to know each other. We are connecting. This is an excellent time for the kiss (if you haven't done it before).

Next bounce is my place ("It is getting darker and I am cold. I would love to continue this in a warmer environment. Let's go to my place. You have to try some excellent wine I picked up last week").
With each bounce, you should be getting closer and closer to your place. Last, comfort building place should be (ideally) waking distance away.

When you are at your place, bring up the wine (alcohol is a social lubricant). If she refuses to drink, that is a sign she is not ready jet. If she drinks, go on.
If she is not ready jet, you can build more comfort and rappor. One thing I do if she doesn't drink is to cook something (and have her help you) or even better, have her cook for you. Girls love to teach men do something and give advice. Second thing, we can watch some movies or play my kinect.
If she drinks, escalate to making out. In either case, have an romantic atmosphere (dimmed lights, candles, music, scents...).
During making out, you can escalate to sex.

This whole process can be spread through several dates. I seal the deal until date 3, but each date has to escalate and make progress. If it doesn't drop her. Usually it takes 7 hours from meeting to sex, says Mystery.

It is all about planning, leading and making an illusion that everything is happening flawlessly and fluidly so she can say "I can't believe this happened" or "I usually don't do this".

Have the plan!

Do you have something to add? Share your experience.

Oznake: game, date

Here is an excellent article about what areas you have to change in order to have a solid foundation for your Game.
One thing I would add is a link related use of porn and masturbation. Reuse the extra energy and time. Hit the gym!

Oznake: game

When learning new things it is easier when there is a systematic division into smaller parts that are then easier to understand (we are men, after all).

This model is roughly taken from Myster's 3M model. Many will argue that 3M is outdated (and techniques there generally are) but principals are valid and have remained the same.
I will give an overview of the model whose particular sections will be covered in depth later (e.g. the techniques).

There are three parts (phases) of the pickup:
Attraction
Comfort
Seduction

Goal of the Attraction is to spark the interest. You have the power to spark attraction in any and every women if you know how to play your cards right. David DeAngelo says “Attraction is not a choice” and that is the truth.
During the Attraction phase there are certain "milestones" you want to achieve.
You have to open and start the conversation. You want to continue the conversation and reach the hooking point when you will be no longer considered a stranger who is invading their privacy. You will be perceived as an interesting person who they have just met. These two are achieved with openers (who can be direct or indirect) and an interesting stories or routines (for indirect).

Second part is building attraction. Direct Game uses emotional surges, ups and downs to overwhelm the girl (aka the target). You could say "shock" her and transmit the message “I have chosen you”. For these to succeed you have to have a strong, manly, alpha sexual frame. Indirect Game slowly makes the target realize how cool you are and how is she starting to feel attracted to you. In both cases you are being cocky and funny, busting your target's balls, being interesting and (in)directly telegraphing your interest. Don’t chase, be chosen is a general rule (directly or indirectly). Turning social stereotypes around is a another good way.

When you notice your target is into you, you start with Comfort phase.

Comfort is built by intense rapport building. You want to connect with the girl. The amount of connection differs what do you want to achieve (SNL – basic comfort (e.g. “You are not a psychopath”), LTR – more comfort (e.g. she trusts you). During Comfort you two are getting to know each other. This is usually done during dating (although some basic comfort can be built at attraction, meeting location). At the beginning of Comfort, you are still being interesting using cocky & funny, ball busting and stories. But as this phase continues and you are getting into deep rapport, you tone it down (since you are dealing with more "serious", intimate topics). During comfort you still need to be a man she was attracted to. You are not a needy guy, telling your sad life story. You are still a dominant male who knows what to do and what he wants (alpha). You just want to get to know her. Here are some tips:
• Be consistent with what you were saying during attraction (e.g. hold your frame and congruency), aka your vibe. If you were perceived as an adventurer, you have to show her that (talking, planning an adventure together or having a mini adventure at the spot).
• Have your own thing. Something that only exists between your two like nickname (strongly recommend) or future plans.
• Venue changing creates an illusion that much time has passed and thus she feels more comfortable with you.
• Talking about past also creates the same time passing illusion.
• Have her qualify to you by asking a qualification questions. Here are my favorites: “What is your most memorable experience that makes you what you are today?”, “Beauty is temporarily. If everyone here would look exactly like you, how would you differ?” or simple ones like “Do you cook?”. Basically you are making her qualify to you (since you are a cool alpha guy).
• Be somehow mysterious and little distant. Do not verbalize what are you doing and why. Only moment you can verbalize is an awkward one (as part of cocky and funny). I am very experienced in cold reading but my problem was that sometimes girls would know I was reading them and that would freak them out (and not in a good way).
• Comfort building routines like Cube, palm reading (and generally cold reading routines), Eliciting Values Routines, Kill/Fuck/Marry routine...

Depending how much rapport and comfort you have built, there will be a stronger or weaker connection. Weak or strong is not an absolute. If you are going for an SNL, you have to build an intense connection which will result in “I usually don’t do this” type rationalization (hamster ftw). But that kind of connection is weak considering longevity (aka LTR potential). Nevertheless, this connection has to lead either to intimacy or friendship zone. The difference is what message you have been sending (either sexual or friendly). Kino escalation helps sending a clear message (there will be a separate topic). Comfort building usually lasts the longest over multiple dates (for LTR kind of Game).

Intimacy is an introduction to seduction and is done at intimate (sex) location. Usually there is heavy making involved, fingering (foreplay) and sex itself. One important thing to overcome before sex is Last Minute Resistance (LMR). There are two kinds of “No” a girl can give you: a token no which is a shit test (successfully passed by continuing) and LMR (it-is-to-early) no. You are probably asking yourself, how you will know the difference. Well, experience, but until you have some, just treat it as a token no (better to apologize then to ask permission). If kind, soft “no” (usually the token one) starts to be louder, serious “no”, and then it is the LMR one. LMR is best solved like you don’t care (as most shit tests). “It is OK babe, I understand”. Kill romantic atmosphere (e.g. candles, music) and do something boring (like check your mail, cell phone, FB, continue watching a movie). She will be confused and slightly irritated why you aren’t chasing after her. If she comes back (and usually she will), continue, but make her to take off a part of clothing that triggered the LMR (bra, panties…). Escalation ramp by Vin Dicarlo is gold. After you have delt with LMR, last step is, well,…have fun. :) Remember to be responsible. (there is a LMR routine that works every time, but you have to bribe me in order to tell you :p)

One important thing to remember is that there is no clear border between steps and phases. You don’t say at one point “now we start with intimacy, please stand by”. Whole experience has to be fluid. You have to have a plan. A Game plan.

Oznake: game

It has been a while since my last post. I had some health issues but they are being taken care of.

Just a quick "motivational post" about what happens when you reach a certain (rookie) level of the Game. I would say I am pretty good at being cocky and funny and it became my modus operandi for social occasions.
Before I went to vacation, I was pinged by one of my oneits with usual "Haven't heard anything from you in a while. Would you like to garb a cup of coffee?". I said no problem, since I have resolved any issues I had. During the whole encounter I was interesting as I always am (cocky & funny). Soon we were tackling the topic of going out and dating. We were commenting all bad openers guys here use (most of them have no Game at all) and what they should have done. Also we were discussing what, how and why women want when going out (hint: not drinks, just interesting stories). Idea behind this discussion of ours was to subtle tell her "I get it now". And it worked. She has good Game. She used multiple False Time Constraints (FTA) but those were just shit tests. She could not have enough of me and leave. Eventually her phone rang and I, realizing she has to go, chased her away. Next week while I was at vacation, she was coming to the city I was just leaving inviting me to go with her and her girls out. I said no (not part of my plans). Next day she invited me to the nearby island which was halfway from my new location and where she was. I denied that invitation as well. We were supposed to go out last night bowling but because I am having mentioned health issues I couldn't. But I invited them all to come for a drink after the game. I also invited some other friends earlier to keep me company. When they came, my apartment was already full of people (DHV, btw). And they were surprised ("Are you having a party?"). There was one girl that sat next to me and started questioning me about my apartment, my job my life and everything. I talked to her a bit, talked to others while ignoring her and never missed an opportunity to bust her balls. Everyone was laughing and having a good time. She had good vibe and was getting into me but since it was the middle of the week they had to leave. We spent another half an hour "leaving" and cracking jokes in the hall. It was fun and she is into me and I plan to continue where we stopped. Since I can't get out to meet new people, it is nice when they come to you.

What is the moral of this story?
If you are considered a cool guy, people will come to you. And it gets that much easier. Game will reward you for your effort and it is upwards spiral from there on. Things just get better and better as well as you do. It is worth every second, every frustration, every rejection.

Game is *NOT* only about picking girls. It is about becoming a better man.

Oznake: game

Women are much, much better at the Game then we are (at least before we learn it).
They are naturals. Why?

While we, as boys, played football (stereotypical, isn't it?) what did girls do? They played "moms", "housewives", "teachers", they chatted and gossiped. They practiced their social skills. They quickly learned the rules of social dynamics (which for most part we know as Game). If Game would be described in one sentence, this would be it:

"Game is using women psychology on women!"

And most of them are really good at it (even those who are not are better then most men).

Here is an example that came from my friend.
He is a nice guy, really nice guy. And he thinks like one. He thinks like a man, and that is logically. Women think differently - emotionally. This doesn't mean they are illogical, but it is emotions, not logic, that drives them. Common Game example would be buying a girl you are interested in a drink at a bar (after approaching, of course). Nice Guy's (logical) thinking would be: "I bought her a drink, (logically) she should be grateful". Her thinking would be: "I really don't care about the drink that much, this guy is giving me the creeps". One of my female friends is a really good gamer. She does a lot of Game stuff intentionally with excellent performance. She told me "The best drink can't compare to a good story". Stories have emotions, drinks don't.

I derailed a bit. Here is my friend's example (let's call him Andy from now on):
Andy's sister introduced him to a friend of her's and there was instant chemistry (let's call her Mia). They liked each other, but she started playing him and giving him shit tests. Shit test is a test where HB test a guy in order to asses his congruence and to see how much she can influence him. Nice Guys do as asked thinking (logically) that this will please a HB, but in reality they loose any attraction they had. In order to understand what is a shit test and what is not ask yourself: "Would I do this for my colleague or not very close friend?" or "Does doing this make sense?". A bit more comprehensive rule of thumb is this: If a woman is making a request of a man and it is the sort of request that you would normally grant if one of your close male friends was making it, it is not a test and should not be treated like one. On the other hand, if a woman makes an uncivil demand of you, it may or may not be a test, but in either case, it is best treated with contempt and ignored.

More on shit tests read this and this (both female writers). (brought by Igniss).

He was, like any Nice Guy, complying with her tests. Luckily, Andy is not stupid, so he put his foot down at one point (resulted in Mia accusing him of a lot not nice things). This resulted in Mia not loosing interest in him, but she was still playing games. Andy tried sorting things up and tried to arrange a meeting (despite my advices). There were some logistical issues (they live in different cities and it is a holiday season). So the "issue" was left unsolved. Andy was at a social gathering where he noticed Mia. She noticed him, but pretended she didn't. At one point she had to walk by Andy and he used this opportunity to say "Hi". She pretended she didn't hear him. (comment: he broadcasted interested, she ignored, making him chase her; nothing unusual when HB knows you are after her) While they were standing as a part of the gathering, Mia was evading eye contact. (looking disinterested, more chasing) Andy then called her by name and said hi. She responded. (because it would be awkward ignoring him further, this was not a nightclub but a social event; others know they know each other) But after that she turned her head away. ("Chase me a little bit more!") Half an hour later, Andy walked to Mia. ("See, I knew he would come") They started a conversation where Mia told him she doesn't want to talk here. (I hope you are getting this by now) Andy had enough (finally), took Mia aside and started talking. She said to ignore everything she is saying because she had a drink or two. He called her on her BS (good job) and said he only wants a minute of polite behavior. He asked her if there is anything they need to discuss (referencing to all shit test hoops she was making him jump through). Mia said: "I don't know. Do we?". Andy told her it was his question and he is expecting an answer. She asked again "What was the question". (unless she was hammered, and I don't think so, she was BS-ing) Andy's answer was brilliant: "I asked for a minute, and that minute has passed. Good bye" and he walked away. (nice) She messaged him later that she is coming to his city and she would like to meet him (but only if he behaves). (still interested, but presenting another shit test) He responded arranging logistics ignoring her comment.

Andy's finish was brilliant, but his behavior in general was not congruent (first you are chasing, then you are not tolerating shit any more). This is why Mia is still interested in him but giving him hard time (playing with his emotions).

What he could have done better?
First recognize the facts - she is interested and she is testing you. Being interested is something that can be used to further increase attraction and make Mia stop playing games. Test should be handled like shit tests. See how big hoop is she has presented and then find a equal or bigger one for her. It is OK to jump through a hoop as long as she jumps first and as long as you stay congruent with your behavior ("Is this something I usually would not have problems doing?"). Another possible response is to ignore the test and proceed like it didn't happen. This also sends a powerful message that you have your way and will not be played with. A mixture of both is optimal.
Second thing is to act. Use her interest to boost attraction and blaze through her shit tests. Instant attraction.

Back on the subject of why being a Nice Guy (or a my personal favorite - Being Yourself) won't work. It is not attractive. Women *DO NOT* want someone nice, they want someone who is going to attract them, someone who they feel safe with ("If you are jumping through her hoops like a little puppy, will you be able to resist some real danger?"). Guys, give them *THAT* man.

Is it normal that women don't want nice guys? Logically no, but this is not how Game is played.

And yes, Nice Guys always finish last.

Oznake: game, shit test, needy

We as a species are social creatures. As social creatures we tend to live (especially today) in large groups. As within every group, sooner or later, some kind of hierarchy occurs. At work, you have your boss who has his boss and so on. At home you (usually) have a father who is "the boss" then mother, then children (at least until they reach puberty). In social situations (or better say circles) some people are considered more cool then others. One is more cool if his/her social status is higher. Also, people have no problem accepting their social status even if it is not high (or as high as they would have wanted).
Before I start with the social status and the Game, here is one experiment I read about:
There were 50 students participating in the experiment. Each student was given a card corresponding with number 1 to 50. Students did not know what their number was. Each student taped his card to his forehead so that everybody else could see it. Students were told to pair with the highest possible number. Soon, students with higher numbers noticed high interest. Students who realized their number was lover (no great interest), started compromising and looked for not-so-high numbers. Soon, hierarchy was formed and students roughly paired with equal numbers.
If you still haven't figured out, substitute numbers with social status and you basically have social dynamics 101 figured. Only difference is how that number is gained.

Outer Game is all about gaining social status. Note, I am not assuming your social status is low, but when entering completely new group, it is not high either (remember first day at your first work).
Inner Game is about quality (being a better person), Outer Game is presenting those qualities in order to gain social status.

When girls bang rock stars in the backstage, they are banging their social status.

How to gain social status?
There are a lot of ways you can gain or loos social status. Some are:
Self-confidence
Looks
Body Language
Playful attitude, cocky & funny
Not being needy and clingy
Be interesting
Be a leader
Building and releasing tension (by being unpredictable)
Don't chase, let them chase you
Speak slowly with deep voice, use pauses

I will work all these subjects as separate topics. For now, just get the idea what is social status all about. It is the key to attracting women. As David DeAngelo said, attraction is not a choice.

Oznake: game, social status