Captain's Blog
23.07.2022., subota
How to Beat a Loudmouth (Attention Grabber) in a Social Situation?
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YouTube suggested the following video to me: 6 Personality Types Women Obsess Over So, I thought: "Oh, why not, can't hurt" and I watched it. It presents six types of charisma in social situations, identified by the author of the video: - The Cool Guy - The Giver - The Goofball - The Suave - The Attention Grabber - The Storyteller My attention (no pun intended) was mostly intrigued by the issue of the "Attention Grabber", because, without living in the USA, I get the impression that this is a tactic often used by Negroids to make them the focus of a social situation, and I could see that this could represent a problem for a White man who doesn't want to make a monkey of himself by competing with a monkey on his own terms, by using monkey patterns of behavior. So here is what I wanted to post as initial comment under the video, but I renounced and posted it here instead: "The really interesting question is how to beat the loudmouth (attention grabber) in a social situation, if you are not a loudmouth yourself and it would be beneath you to act like a (negroid) monkey, but you have complete confidence in yourself at the same time? Definitely not by making something confrontational, that would make you look small and threatened, but something that makes the loudmouth look small and insignificant, despite his grand gestures. Something that completely neutralizes the apparent importance of what he says and the way he expresses it. One should analyze the patterns of the loudmouth. They probably exists and can be analyzed better than in this general video, because loudmouths are about selling themselves as the ones who are referential in a social situation. Probably something in the lines of an intelligent humor that makes their pretension to be the focus of attention ridiculous. Or some clever (and humorous) questions that deflate the whole frame the loudmouth has created for himself and "exists" through. This deserves a very specific analysis." Then after a minute, I came up with the obvious solution: One must be on a higher awareness level - a higher frame than them, and see completely their frame from above and control it from a more causal transcending frame, that transcends their frame. But one must also deflect attention, meaning that what one says must deflect the subject of discussion from "them", because loudmouths basically talk only about themselves, not anything else, towards a more general frame where the minds of the other interlocutors shift from the subject of the loudmouth to some frame outside of his monkeying, and then you can redirect and take control of the audience's attention and impose the higher pattern of charisma that you have: the "Calm Unquestionable Leader". The video didn't envision that highest form of charisma: The Leader. (That's the higher mind frame I was talking about, btw.) The Leader can do everything the other types can, but from a vantage point higher and transcending any of them. Then, the behaviors described in the video become just some tools among others, and one can make a number of of other tools and improvise various useful behaviors (like you improvise a solution to fix some mechanical problem or some house repair, or whatever problem needs improvisation, you use imagination). Basically you play the instrument that needs to be played at a given moment, like in a piece of music, but never forgetting the main theme: you are The Leader, and you control the situation as a Leader with total potency, not by just being reduced to a narrow pattern of behavior. You are the composer and the conductor of your own orchestra. By being the totipotent Leader, you can beat any of the "single instrument" guys, because you are on a level of awareness and action higher than them, and control all the parameters of the situation from that level. You also must enter any situation by physically embodying leadership. You enter it as THE Leader, not as someone trying to find a niche for himself in that situation. You control, you don't even think about the others, you just control. And what you say must not be on the same level of yapping and monkeying of your opponent, but something outside and above that content placing yourself as the real arbiter of the situation, completely above the frame they use and establishing a higher frame of verbal content, controlling the lower frames. You don't follow the existing dynamic, you create a new one. You don't fit in, you don't follow, you take over and you LEAD. And don't worry how you look. If you manifest total confidence and leadership superiority, those who only have their body for them, will look weak compared to you, because they rely on something external that they have, not on the core that they are - because they aren't. |