Voljeti sebe
Možemo li iskreno i bezuvjetno voliti druge ako jednako tako ne volimo sebe?
Mogu li nas drugi voljeti ako mi sami sebe ne volimo?
Hoće li nas drugi poštivati i cijeniti ako se sami ne poštujemo i cijenimo?
Možemo li uopće sklapati nova prijateljstva, poznanstva, ako nismo zadovoljni sami sobom i ako ne zračimo tom nekakvom pozitivnom energijom i samopouzdanjem?
Možemo li uopće uspijeti u životu ako ne volimo sebe dovoljno?
KAKO uopće zavoljeti sebe konačno?
To su pitanja koja su me sinoć oko 2 ujutro mučila i motala mi se po glavi.
Nisam mogla sklopit oči dok ne dobijem odgovore na sva ta pitanja.
A univerzalni odgovor za sva ta pitanja (osim zadnjeg di je odgovor ipak malo kompleksniji) je NE!
Cijeli život ja nisam voljela sebe dovoljno. Uvijek sam našla nešto da kritiziram, sigurnost u vlastite postupke bila je ponekad skoro pa ravna nuli, kompleksi su se nabijali sami od sebe... a opet.. čudila sam se ponekad... kako me netko drugi ne može prihvatiti? Pa naravno da ne može kad ni ja sama sebe nemogu prihvatiti.
Zato sam od danas odlučila neke stvari promjeniti. Bar početi mjenjati.
Evo par jako zanimljivih tekstova koje sam našla na netu o ovoj temi, vjerujte mi da su vrijedni čitanja ! 
Ljubim vas sve! 
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We spend so much of our time waiting to be loved, hoping love will find us, searching, yearning for that special love. Feeling empty and lost without it. Wanting someone to give us love and fill us up. Unfortunately, that’s not usually how life works. You will draw to you exactly what you create in life, and what you believe you are worthy of. So loving yourself can create love in your life.
Steps
1. Take a realistic evaluation of yourself. Be honest with yourself about how valuable you believe you are as a person. The way you see yourself and treat yourself is the very way others will see you and treat you. Do you see yourself as valuable, worthy of the gift of love? More importantly, do you treat yourself lovingly and as a valuable being? It’s ok to be truthful with yourself, it may not be pretty! Awareness is the first and more powerful step on the path to change!
2. Forgive yourself if you ever believe you aren't worthy of love. After all, there were probably things in your childhood or previous years that created that belief for you. It simply isn’t true; every being on this planet is worthy of love, after all, love is what we are here for, it’s what it’s all about. Say to yourself now; “I forgive myself for believing that I was not worthy of love.” Go look in a mirror and say it out loud to yourself, look yourself right in the eyes and say it like you mean it. Go on, I’ll wait.
3. Post this affirmation up someplace where you will see it each and every day; “I have the courage to believe that I am worthy of love.” Read it out loud, every day, at least once, ideally at least ten times each time you notice it. Sticky notes are fabulous for affirmations.
4. Take action and make those words real. Begin loving and valuing yourself. It is said that you cannot give away what you do not have. So, if you are not able to love and accept yourself unconditionally, how in the world are you going to love and accept anyone else unconditionally? Much less accept that love in return from them?
5. Remember that love is not a feeling, it is a choice! Make the choice to love yourself. After all, who deserves it more? The more loving you are to yourself, the more loving you will be able to be to everyone around you. Family and friends will especially benefit from this. Make a choice to come from a place of love for yourself and for everyone who is important in your life.
6. Think about what you need to fill that emptiness inside, that place that is longing for love. What specifically do you need? Find the answer and then give it to yourself. No one is more capable of loving you, and giving you exactly what you need than you are! When you learn how to fulfill yourself in that way, you stop searching for it outside of yourself and you suddenly begin attracting it to you! You change yourself from a sponge to a magnet! People see you radiating self love and they are drawn to you!
Tips
• Here's something to try saying every day. Place it on your mirror. It always helps me.
I look in the mirror and what do I see? a Beautiful lady staring back at me. Oh wow! I thought, who could that be?, ( then smile and say), oh! It's only me.
1. Stop all criticism: Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
2. Don't scare yourself: Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
3. Be gentle and kind and patient: Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient
with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you
really loved.
4. Be kind to your mind: Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change the thoughts.
5. Praise yourself: Criticism breaks the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
6. Support yourself: Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends, and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
7. Be loving to your negatives: Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So. lovingly release the old negative patterns.
8. Take care of your body: Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
9. Mirror work: Look into your own eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day, say: "I love you, I really love you!"
10. LOVE YOURSELF - DO IT NOW! Don't wait until you get well or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin NOW - do the best you can.
05.09.2007. u 09:47 | K | 10 | P | # | ^
Žena.. i još hipersenzibilka! Pa di ćeš gore!
Neki mi to dodjeljuju kao vrlinu, neki kao manu.
Neki me zbog toga obožavaju, a neki maltene da me tjeraju kod psihologa zbog toga.
Čula sam čak i (po mom mišljenju-primitivne izjave) jednog čovjeka koji kaže da sa hipersenzibilnim ženama više štete nego koristi jer će one biti hipersenzibilne samo onda kada to njima ide u korist, a kada treba "shvatit" šta njemu treba i šta on osijeća, e onda odjenom nismo hipersenzibilne.
Ma bjež, to bi ja svrstala u izjave frustriranih muškaraca koje su žene previše puta sjebala u životu, pa sada i onu koja im se sviđa i koja im je draga je vrlo često okarakterizirana lošom upravo zbog toga što ju se stalno uspoređuje sa bivšima koje su također bile 'loše'. Al glavno da oni sebe okarakteriziraju savršenima i totalno nedužnima zbog svega loše što im se desilo u bivšim vezama.
A ovo govorim iz iskustva.
I mislim da većina vas zna kako je teško kad se trudiš iz petnih žila, a on uvijek kao da traži nešto loše u vama, traži vam greške, i odjednom to postane sve što radi -traži loše, a odavno je prestao tražit dobro.
A još pogotovo ako ste skiksali negdje u prošlosti, pa makar se to odavno riješilo i raspravilo, to će se vraćati cijeli život kao tema rasprave, i zbog toga sam ja uglavnom morala umuknuti jer je njemu to uvijek bio najjači argument u svađama.
Fer ili ne fer?
Uh...prekomplicirano za objasnit...a večeras sam previše uzrujana da bi išta normalnoga napisala.
Možda se samo treba isplakat malo, pa će bit bolje....
Iako znam da mi sada nebi niš više pomoglo nego da odem do njega, probudim ga ko on mene ujutrom u 9 (iako je znao da sam kasnooo došla doma s fešte, al neee.. ak se on diže rano, svi se moraju dignut rano) i lijepo ga istućem sa prvom papučom koju nađem i vratim se happy nazad doma
A niš...preostaje mi jedino pustit koju suzu i olakšat se tako i nadat se da sutra dolazi ljepši i sunčaniji dan... u svakom pogledu ! 
03.09.2007. u 01:11 | K | 2 | P | # | ^